Burnout and the Healing Heart: Finding Renewal When You’ve Given Too Much
If you’re a therapist, healer, or someone who shows up every day for the people around you, you probably know what burnout feels like. It’s more than just being tired. It’s the deep exhaustion that seeps into your body, your thoughts, and even your spirit. It’s when your compassion feels stretched thin, when the work you once loved feels heavy, and when rest never feels like enough.
You are not alone. And you are not broken. Burnout is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign that you’ve been carrying too much, for too long, without enough space for your own restoration.
My Own Story of Burnout
I know burnout not just as a concept, but as a lived experience. When it was happening, I was embarrassed to even admit I was burning out, but it was true.
When I worked in a busy clinic setting, the pace was relentless with long hours, heavy caseloads, and a constant push to see more people. The clinic’s mission was noble: access to care for those who needed it most. But the reality was a system that asked too much from its providers, often at the expense of our own well-being.
First and foremost, I am human. I carried my own history of trauma and traumatic grief into that environment, which made the weight even heavier. Like many of my colleagues, I poured out everything I had for my clients, even as I was wearing down myself. There was little space to process, recover, or breathe. In the end, it took a toll.
That’s when I knew I had to do something different. I made a plan to slowly build up my private practice while still working at the clinic and eventually transition out. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it was necessary. It’s also one reason why I chose not to take insurance in my private practice. I couldn’t keep adding layers of administrative stress on top of the work I was already holding.
That season of burnout taught me an important truth: even healers need healing. Even therapists need a safe place to pause, to feel, and to be cared for.
Discovering I Was a Highly Sensitive Person
Another turning point for me was learning about being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) through Dr. Elaine Aron’s research and her HSP self-test. For much of my life, I saw my sensitivity as something that made me weak. I felt things deeply, was easily overstimulated, and often carried others’ pain as if it were my own.
Taking the quiz and learning about HSPs shifted something inside of me. Suddenly, the very things I thought were flaws; my deep empathy, awareness, and intuition were reframed as strengths. They weren’t weaknesses at all. They were part of what made me effective as a therapist and compassionate as a human being.
This new understanding also helped me see why burnout had been hitting me so hard. It wasn’t because I wasn’t strong enough, it was because my nervous system was highly tuned. And instead of fighting it, I learned I needed to honor it. I needed boundaries, rest, and environments that supported my sensitivity, not environments that pushed me past my limits.
Why Burnout Hits Therapists and Healers So Hard
We hold space constantly. Listening deeply, witnessing trauma, and being fully present takes tremendous energy.
We absorb more than we realize. Highly sensitive people and empaths often carry clients’ or loved ones’ emotions long after a session or conversation ends.
We forget our own needs. Caring for others often comes at the expense of boundaries, nourishment, and rest.
The culture of “helping” praises overwork. Many of us were taught that self-sacrifice is a virtue, leaving little room to admit when we’re overwhelmed.
Signs You May Be Burned Out
Emotional numbness or irritability
Trouble concentrating or feeling present
Loss of joy or meaning in work you used to love
Physical exhaustion that doesn’t ease with sleep
Increased anxiety, hopelessness, or self-doubt
If this feels familiar, it’s not a personal failure. It’s your system’s way of saying; “I need care too.”
Paths Toward Renewal
Healing from burnout is not about a quick fix. It’s about gently reclaiming your energy and remembering that you matter too.
Here are a few places to begin:
Pause without guilt. Rest is not laziness. Rest is repair.
Reclaim boundaries. You don’t have to say yes to everything. Protect your time and energy the way you protect others’.
Nourish your body. Food, movement, and breath all support your nervous system. Even small changes help.
Seek support. Therapists and healers need therapy too. Having your own safe space to process is a powerful form of self-care.
Reconnect with meaning. Sometimes a reminder of why you chose this path can reignite a small spark of hope.
A Note on Systemic Change
· Healing from burnout isn’t only about self-care. While rest, mindfulness, and healthy practices are important, they can’t fully address burnout on their own. Often, burnout is rooted in the systems and environments we work within, places that demand too much while offering too little support. Clinics that overbook therapists, workplaces that value productivity over people, and cultural messages that glorify self-sacrifice all contribute to the problem.
· True recovery means more than taking better care of ourselves; it also involves reshaping the spaces we live and work in. That might look like advocating for sustainable workloads, changing environments that drain us, or creating new paths that align with our values. Healing becomes possible not just when we rest, but when the systems around us change too.
You Deserve the Care You Give
If you’re a therapist, healer, or highly sensitive person walking through burnout, I want you to know this: you are worthy of the same gentleness, patience, and compassion you offer so freely to others.
At Heart of Grace Counseling and Consulting PLLC, I specialize in supporting therapists, empaths, and healers who feel depleted. Together, we can create space for you to breathe, heal, and rediscover your strength.
