Trauma
“We’re not broken, just learning how to work with our exceptional experiences.”
~Tammy Gallentine
PTSD symptoms fall into three categories:
1. Re-experiencing symptoms include reliving the trauma through nightmares, flashbacks and intense physical reactivity such as heart beating fast, quickened breathing, tense muscles and nausea when being reminded of the event.
2. Avoidance symptoms include avoiding places and activities as well as thoughts and feelings that remind you of the traumatic event. It is common for those who are experiencing these symptoms to lose interest in life, isolate more and feel emotionally numb.
3. Arousal symptoms include feeling on guard, being easily startled and checking to see who is around. Many sufferers develop difficulty concentrating in addition to other conditions such as depression, substance abuse, physical aches and pains, suicidal ideation, cognition problems, guilt, anger shame and self-blame. These symptoms lead to a deterioration in functioning and create breakdowns in family life, social life and difficulties with work and parenting.
Please note that symptoms in children and adolescents can present differently than adults. Children can become extremely fearful and cling to a parent or caregiver, bedwetting and sleep problems including nightmares can occur. Children will often act out aspects of the trauma they have experienced and can become angry, irritable and even aggressive. Harsh discipline of behaviors can negatively impact an already suffering child. Please seek help for you and your child if you are noticing these symptoms.
At Heart of Grace, I offer several types of trauma therapies such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing), Lifespan Integration, TF-CBT (Trauma Focused CBT) and CPT (Cognitive Processing Therapy).
Each modality can assist individuals through both single incident trauma events and complex PTSD. Types of traumatic events that can lead to complex PTSD include birth trauma, childhood abuse, neglect and abandonment, ongoing domestic violence or abuse, repeatedly witnessing violence or abuse, being forced or trafficked in the sex trade, tortured, kidnapped or being a prisoner of war, police, military or rescue professional.
Religious abuse and trauma also lend itself towards being complex. Please see more about religious trauma.
Despite what has happened, there truly are better days ahead. The effects of trauma that have been so debilitating can in fact be reversed. Healing can happen for those that are open to the process.
What is trauma?
Trauma can happen to anyone and can occur at any time or stage in someone’s life. It can happen as a result of a direct experience or by witnessing an event.
The American Psychological Association defines trauma in this way.
Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. While these feelings are normal, some people have difficulty moving on with their lives.
Trauma isn’t just about what has happened to you. It’s defined by how your nervous system experienced and stored the event. Trauma lives in the body, not just in the mind and it’s different for every person. Some trauma is cumulative. It’s not always one big event, but can be a series of smaller repeated experiences, like ongoing criticism, emotional abuse and neglect.
Not everyone encountering a trauma will end up diagnosed with PTSD.
What is PTSD?
Not all traumatic events will progress into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but in order to be diagnosed with PTSD a person must have experienced a traumatic event. After a traumatic event the mind and body enter into a type of shock. Almost everyone encounters at least some of the symptoms of PTSD such as feelings of fear, anxiety and bad dreams following the event. Those are normal responses to an abnormal event also called Post Traumatic Stress. For most people symptoms will subside over a few weeks and normal life will resume. The primary difference between trauma and PTSD is not the severity of the trauma event, but the severity and length of symptoms.
“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.”
~ Bessel van der Kolk